Me, a not-so-military gf/wife type.

And so I was told by someone I barely knew that I am not an Army wife material.  I didn’t realize that to there such a requirement to be one.  Everytime I go out with one, I would always be told that no, I don’t understand what they’re doing.  Relationships whether you’re with a military man or not is something you develop and something that grows through time and going through tough situations together. 

 So here’s what I was told.  ‘1. I am the type of girl who needs someone to make me his number one.’ Nope, don’t judge me yet.   I may look like that type of girl but believe me, I have been alone a lot of times of my life because of what I do with my work.  Yes, I travel around the states even the around the globe a lot.  So no, you can’t tell me I need a man 24/7. ‘2. It’s hard to do long distance and I won’t survive it’ Again, see explanation for point 1.  ‘3.  The work that he has will only hurt me.  There maybe no communication for month and his priority is his work’.  One again, see explanation for point one. (and cmon, the technology right now is way too much so I don’t think there’s no way you can really communicate)  Okay here’s what I’m guilty of but this did happen with a previous one.  I was jealous.  I am still a little jealous.  But through what I have experienced, this is something that I have worked out with and I know, I did well on this.  

No, I am not perfect and so is everyone else.  I wasn’t trained by my parents to be one and my life doesn’t involve anything that has to do with the military.  But when I love someone, I really do love one and try my best not to be someone who knows the military but someone to be there for the person.  I want to be the right one’s girlfriend/wife. What matters is that you try, you try to understand your partner, you try to be there for him and try to be as supportive as you can be.   Yes, at times, there will be problems but surviving, working on it makes the relationship stronger.  No, you don’t try to be something that you are not.  When you love each other, you don’t pretend, you don’t expect and you don’t get scared of what the future will be for you even if you two have very different worlds.